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My faith that there are good and true people in this world becomes dimmer every day. I am a mom to 2 wonderful girls and my job is to teach them how to “be.” I don’t care if they are smart, or athletic, or handy. I don’t care if they invent the cure for Cancer.
I just simply want them to be good, nice and honest people.
I will cry every single day if my girls grow up to be phony people with little respect for others; if they can’t admit when they are wrong, or if they are unkind.
Please tell me, is that such a difficult concept for people? Why can’t people be honest and nice?
As you know we have been meeting with builders as well as looking at existing homes on the market to buy. We recently had an experience that has made me livid. And it is not because these people were so rude and flim-flammed us, but it is because these people have kids.
Is this how they are raising their kids?
Let me back up…
I used to work at a golf course. I dealt with people all day, every day, mostly men. I started when I was 15 years old and worked my way up to running the place. People from there even read this very blog! Hi Guys!!
My point is I would talk ALL DAY. I have seen all types of people, but most importantly, I can spot a phony person full of BS a mile away.
Call it a “gift” if you will.
I have zero tolerance for phony, dishonest people.
Now, back then, the phony people didn’t know that I didn’t like talking to them. I had a “face” that couldn’t be read. I would smile and nod and let them talk their talk and try to get me to lower my price or sweeten me up, but in the end My Price was My Price. I was always very direct and honest.
You can tell me I am pretty. You can tell me whatevertheheckyouwant, but I still will not “do” phony mumbo jumbo. It makes me sick to my stomach.
I deal in black and white. I am a straight shooter.
This is also why I have zero tolerance for politics. Just state the facts and your platforms please and thank you. I do not want to hear ads with scary music playing in the background while you rip on somebody else.
How stupid do you think people are anyway? Do people actually base their opinions on these ads?
Anyway… Back to why I am so saddened and angry at people:
We met with a builder’s rep recently. The builder had promise and talked a good talk. So we took it a step further. We went to a model home to talk about pricing and upgrades, etc. We had a lot in mind until the Rep told us that there were lots for $50,000 in a cul-de-sac that backed up to a Nature Preserve.
We saw the lots and fell in love. Now, both Tyler and I knew that these lot prices were too low to be true and we kept asking the Rep, “Really?”
Each and every time we asked, he said “yes”. He could not understand why we didn’t believe him. Specifically he said he was getting a little annoyed that we didn’t believe him.
The reason we didn’t believe him is that I had gone online and practically memorized the standard features in the model home so earlier in the day when we were talking with him, he kept giving us mis-information, saying that something wasn’t included, when it said online that it was, etc. He didn’t know ANY prices on upgrades, or would tell me that he was certain whatever I wanted “didn’t cost much.”
Here we are ready to build a house and this guy doesn’t have prices? Huh? What?
Let’s talk about sod: On the billboard in front of the model home it stated sod was standard. On the website it said that sod was standard in ALL of their communities.
The Rep first said that sod was NOT included until I pointed those little facts out to him.
Then he said that sod was only included in the summer.
Then he said sod was only included in this particular model home, but not in any other one.
What does one believe after that, hmmm?
Do you see why we didn’t believe him about the price of the lot?
By the end of the day all we wanted was to know the price of the lot. He said he would call us and let us know. We told him that we were ready to sign on the dotted line and get started once the price was confirmed yet again.
A few days went by and we still had NO answer, but we did have a meeting with the actual Owner/Builder.
And this is where my gift of spotting a phony isn’t a gift. It is more like a curse.
We walk in and he begins to talk. After 5 minutes I knew he was giving us the run around. He starts talking about other lots in different areas so I politely interrupted his schtick because I just don’t “do” phony.
And guess what?
The lot was not $50,000. He said that the Rep should not have given us their cost of the lot. We would pay $67,900. He kind of laughed about it. There was NO apology for the misinformation that was given to us.
I kicked Tyler under the table and since Tyler and I can speak “kick,” we knew we were walking. We had had enough. The owner/builder kept trying to keep us there giving us more lines of BS, but it didn’t work.
He kept trying to show us house blueprints or talk about upgrades, but he had lost us.
Then he said the best, most memorable lines of all:
“You know what I am going to do for you? I am going to call the developer. He is a buddy of mine. He is on vacation in Hawaii right now and he just landed so I know I can call him. I am going to tell him your situation and see what I can do to lower the price and get you into that home.”
Can anyone say Smarmy Car Salesman? Huh? Can You?
He also said that he could lower the price of the lot by taking away the salesman’s commission and then he tried to make us feel guilty about that!!! Umm… Hello? This salesman who gave us all sorts of false information should be reprimanded for not doing his job so I really do not have a problem with him not getting a commission on the deal.
But wait, it gets even better. While the owner/builder was shoving blueprints at us to look at, I said that we did not like one plan because the square footage on the main level is too small and this is what he says to us:
“I know that the wife buys the house and makes all of the decisions, so if she doesn’t like it, it is out.”
Come ON!!! Who is not offended by this? Please, please tell me that you would be offended by this?!
I promptly replied that we make joint decisions.
You know what is sad?
If we had walked through that door, that night, and the Builder/Owner had started the meeting by apologizing for the misinformation that was given us and he had been honest and upfront and sincere he would have had us. $67,900 is still a great price for that lot.
We respect honestly and sincerity.
I will pay more to work with honest and good people.
The Builder/Owner has kids. Does this mean he is raising his kids to be like him?
What disgusts me is NOT that we got misinformation constantly.
It is NOT even that our dream home is dead.
I know that in the end we will be exactly where we are supposed to be.
What disgusts me is this:
The simplest concept, to me, is to be nice and honest. I work my butt off teaching my girls right from wrong, how to be polite and nice and respectful and then I have to deal with this man who is raising many kids.
Many kids are going to go into this world having this man as a role model.
It just makes me sick.
I told Tyler that even if the lot was free, I would NOT work with this company because you just can’t trust them. What would YOU do? Would you work with them?
It took a week for the builder/owner to call his “buddy” to get us a deal. He dropped $7,900 off the price of the lot. It was still ten grand over the price that we were told. We did not take the “deal.”
It is a lot that people dream about and that will never come again in the area we want. However, we just couldn’t take the risk of working with this company. It had “nightmare of gargantuan proportions” written all over it. Neither of us would be able to look at ourselves the same way if we had let our desire for the lot take precedence over working with this shady bunch.
Sometimes taking the “High Road” sucks.