From SAHM to Workaholic in Seconds Flat

by Erika Quagliano on February 11, 2011

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Here’s the deal:

I forgot what it’s like to work…. erum… work and get paid to be specific.

Sure I work at home and work on my blog.  I did a little logo design work for some companies a couple of years ago, but to actually work regularly is somewhat foreign to me.

Or at least that is what I thought it would be like.

Basically a minute after I was asked to do this social media project, my mind whirled and focused and organized and sorted unlike ever before.

It was magic.

There was a feeling inside me that I had forgotten about and I learned something about myself along the way.

My name is Erika and I am a workaholic.

There.  I said it.

I never realized it all those years ago when I was single.  The only thing I needed to do back then was work, buy Coach bags and fall in love.

Since the love thing was hit and (mostly) miss I worked.

And I loved what I did.

If you love what you do it shows and you want to give 100% all of the time. 

For me the bottom line is and always will be:  Do a job 100% or don’t do it at all. (and my bathrooms are a testament to that because they suck, by the way.)


To be a SAHM and tackle this enormous project is, well, quite the undertaking.

For 3 solid weeks, every single solitary spare minute I had was spent working on their Social Media Program.  We had a deadline and I sure wasn’t going to be the one to drop the ball.  That just isn’t how I roll.

If I wasn’t at the computer, I was on the iPad.

If I wasn’t on the iPad, I was hurriedly scribbling down notes in my notebook.

And when I wasn’t taking notes, I was thinking or talking to Tyler about everything.

Because I love it.

And I am ridicously proud of myself that after 12 years of being a Mommy I didn’t lose my knack for working. 

Sometimes one wonders, you know?

However, I will admit that I am kind of happy that the 10 people I am working with didn’t get their required information to me in time so I had to extend their Launch Date by a week.  And while I was waiting for them I could slow down a teeny tiny bit.

(And if you are reading this and are one of those 10 people, I am NOT happy at all.  I was being nice in the above statement.)

I now re-realize my abilities and worth.   I hadn’t lost it.  It was always there in the background.  I love Social Media and Blogging.  Something that started as a lark is turning into something a little bit more.

It’s a good feeling to have.

You know what is also good?

Having a life beyond work.  It’s what this workaholic always wanted.


Are you like ME?  Do you throw yourself into your work or projects 100% that you forget that you have a life beyond it?

What do you think?
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{ 30 comments… read them below or add one }

Purplume February 11, 2011 at 1:45 AM

I love it when I get involved in something creative and lose track of time. It is so good to be in that place.
Welcome back and congratulations for a job well done.


The Girl Next Door Grows Up February 11, 2011 at 7:08 AM

Thank you. Now I can’t wait to show it to all of you on Monday!


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lady Ohlala February 11, 2011 at 4:22 AM

So there’s still hope for me? Just. Amazing. I left my last job one year and a half ago in order to sort my thoughts out and decide what it was I really wanted to do… When I finally figured it out, one year had gone and my only wonder till then is (“was” now that I read your post) “will I be able to wake my “work tiger” up after such a long sleep?”.

Apparently, yes. *massive sigh – Chin up – smile* Brilliant :) and congrats to you!


The Girl Next Door Grows Up February 11, 2011 at 7:08 AM

Thank you.

And yes, it was something I was worried about, but I think if it was in you in the first place, it will always be with you. Like riding a bike.


sparkling74 February 11, 2011 at 6:17 AM

I am so with you. I am a workaholic, if you can’t tell by the many things I mention in my posts, and I truly cannot stop. When people tell me how lucky I am to get my summers off, I agree, but think about how I am just as busy but in a different way. Like it’s mostly on my terms. Or it’s just an hour here and an hour there. I worry every August that when I have to get back to work at 7:45 and stay locked up in a building until 4pm, that I will have a breakdown. Freedom is a great thing but scary when we know we have to go back to the man. I spend the first 2 weeks of school every year convinced I have a disease because I am so exhausted. How can standing around talking make me more tired than mowing grass for 5 hours???? I swear it’s all psychological.

The fact that as a SAHM you get up every day and put on real clothes and make up told me you hadn’t lost it one bit. The fact that you get up every day is pretty remarkable. And you get dressed- pretty swanky. Make up just tells me you’ve been posing as a stay at home all this time and that you knew you’d be back.

Oh, and I hate it when people can’t meet deadlines and need extensions. This is why I can’t work in the corporate world. I’d sacrifice everything to get something done on time only to show up at work with 5 people having “emergencies” and needing to extend the deadline. I’m with you on that one!


The Girl Next Door Grows Up February 11, 2011 at 7:06 AM

You hit the nail on the head. That is why we are friends.


joann mannix February 11, 2011 at 6:43 AM

I am the same exact way. I think it’s all in the way you’re raised. We were taught to always give your job, no matter how lofty or menial, 150%.

Congratulations on reigniting your passion.


The Girl Next Door Grows Up February 11, 2011 at 7:06 AM

Thanks. And yes, it is how we were raised.


Nancy@A Rural Journal February 11, 2011 at 6:52 AM

Although I no longer work outside the farm, I view my blog as my “work”. I fret and tweak and spell-check, over and over until I’m satisfied. I was the same way when I was working in the insurance field. Nothing wrong with that. More people could benefit from that work ethic.


The Girl Next Door Grows Up February 11, 2011 at 7:05 AM

It’s how I was raised. My parent would have had a heart attack if I didn’t have a strong work ethic, yet as a kid, I could never seem to put my clothes away :-)


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Joey @ Big Teeth & Clouds February 11, 2011 at 7:04 AM

I do the 100% thing. That’s why going back to work as a paraprofessional for the school district has been good for me. I give it 100% for six hours a day and then go home. There’s no way for me to do homework! It’s a nice change.


MNMimi February 11, 2011 at 8:06 AM

I went to work after being a SAHM for 15 yrs!! I had done little things with friends here and there. I actually enjoy my job because I love working with people. Some people might wonder why I’ve worked at a hardware store for 4yrs in a P/T position but I love that I get to choose my hours, I can take vacation anytime I want, I can be home when my boys leave for school and when they get home. When I decide I want something better I’ll do it, but for now, I really love my job. Oh, and I’m a twitterholic (I may need intervention) and as for my bathroom…we don’t need toothpaste in tubes. We could just wipe our tooth brushes on the countertop to get what we need.


Snuggle Wasteland February 11, 2011 at 8:16 AM

I’m glad you’re enjoying it so much! I’m not exactly a workaholic but I get very obsessed with whatever my current project is. I live, eat, sleep, and breathe it till I move on to the next thing. (Does that mean I’m a workaholic, IDK?)


Samantha February 11, 2011 at 8:23 AM

I am the same way! It’s good to be like that though I think, but it’s also good to take a break and enjoy your family too.


Kimberly February 11, 2011 at 8:33 AM

I am a perfectionist so I totally get this. My work isn’t done till it’s perfect. The thing is, when I had to stop work because of my back injury, I realized how much more fun it was to put myself into other things and that? Was just as rewarding.
Find that balance and then run with it ;)


Dollycas February 11, 2011 at 8:45 AM

I am so glad you have a great week!!

Erika and my other FGF Friends,
I know the whole purpose of FGF is to find something, anything to Feel Good about taking us into the weekend.

I was flying high until yesterday at about 5 p.m. Last week I announced to you and all the world on my blog that I was going to be a grandma again. I was so happy.

Yesterday, my daughter-in-law lost the baby and has some critical medical issues. She will be in surgery at 11 a.m. today and they will probably be at minimum removing a mass from her left ovary and worse, removing the ovary and part of the tube.

I can’t post today, I just can’t, but I am hoping you will all see this and pray and get as many others as you can to pray for Amber. I know prayer works, I am living proof of it. God saved me and I should be dead so please pray and pray mightily that it is just a mass that can be removed. I will keep you posted and hopefully have a FGF post next week.

Love to my friends,


Dollycas February 11, 2011 at 8:57 AM

Surgery has just been moved to 2 p.m.


Holly February 11, 2011 at 1:23 PM

So sorry to hear about your loss of your grandchild, Lori. The best of luck with the surgery. I’m in on the prayer.


LilyofDarkness February 11, 2011 at 8:45 AM

I can tell! You do a great job.


Michelle Saunderson February 11, 2011 at 9:06 AM

I am like that too. The only bad thing, it is very hard to be a workaholic and mom at the same time.


Holly February 11, 2011 at 1:26 PM

Congratulations on having such fun with your job! Aren’t new challenges fun?

I’m 100% into setting up my coaching business now, which includes hours of practice sessions and study in addition to the business part. It’s been my priority for the past few weeks, and I’m constantly checking in with my husband to make sure he doesn’t feel neglected. We’re used to spending a great deal of time together, and he’s never seen me so focused on anything.

So no, I haven’t forgotten I have a life beyond coaching, though that’s my priority now. I’ve been putting a lot of other things on the back burner.


Box of Chocolates February 11, 2011 at 10:28 PM

I love to work when I work, but my priority number 1 will always be my kids and my hubby! If work should ever interfere with them there is no debate. Toodles, job! I will always find another job. Work is neverending, right? But my family is irreplaceable!


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