Dear Bathwater and Longtime Readers:
I am having a little bit of a hard time getting back into the groove as my friend Bathwater pointed out yesterday. And he was right. I came back to blogging for my 40th birthday in June, and then I went away only to come back 3 months later posting an informative piece about iOS7.
So lame. I know.
Please read on. I’d appreciate your input.
You know I started this blog in 2009, and I wrote 5 days a week. I built my site up to 1000 readers in a little over a year and it was quite a ride. I met and got to know you (online) and we became friends (online). But life changed.
The title of my blog is The Girl Next Door Grows Up. It’s not called The Girl Next Door Stays the Same.
I wanted to learn more. And the more I learned, the more I could do. I learned a little code and learning that code gave me the confidence to try my hand at developing apps for Apple®.
Now, it’s not like I made Words with Friends, but I did it. I made a total of 5 apps. Plus they were all featured by Apple®. I didn’t pay to have it done. I did it all by myself with a little help from Google and You Tube.
And I was / am proud.
App developing led me to design and manufacture my own line of cases. Less than a year ago I launched DayCase, which has been growing steadily.
During this period of time I did not write or connect with you. I did not tweet, or post anything on The Facebook, but I missed you terribly bad. Instead I did my real job (being a mom) and during naptimes and preschool I worked at slowly building my company.
In June, I wanted to come back to blogging in the worst way. The blog posts I had written in my head are too many to count. So I re-focused and I came back as a present to myself, on my birthday, and I had BIG plans. Blog posts were lined up in the queue ready to be published.
But do you know why nothing has gotten posted?
I couldn’t add one more thing to my plate without giving something up. Family comes first, then my business. Blogging and app development had to go.
Kindergarten started this September and my little Sarah, whose real name is Hannah (yep, I am so done with the false names for my kids) is now gone during the day.
I thought that having all of this time to work would mean that I could fly and do everything I hadn’t be able to do.
I thought that I could focus on my company and write and I would have the best of both worlds.
But my company is growing and orders need to be filled, clients need to be emailed and writing just got pushed to the back burner yet again. Plus, unless I have to send a quick email, when the girls are home, I am off of the devices. (Except for bejeweled ‘cause that doesn’t count.)
You know, I follow this woman who has her own company. I have watched her grow. I love the way she markets her business. And I have always been in awe of her success. She does a really great job. I used to think that I wanted to be like her one day. Her company is growing and growing.
But then she posted a picture of 4 women. She said she wanted to give a shout out to the ladies who watched her kids this summer because she was too busy working in the office.
That’s not me. That will never be me.
I want to have a successful business and I want to have a successful blog, but my family will always come first. I may not make millions of dollars, or have tens of thousands of followers and that’s okay if it means I am here for my family.
So please bear with me. I want to write. I want to connect. I am just trying to find a balance.
And as for the lame post about iOS7? This week I removed my apps from the App Store because I just don’t have the time it takes to keep them updated any more. Kind of sad, but also a relief.
I want to have it all, but sometimes you just have to redefine what “it all” is. So here’s my plan:
Mondays through Fridays I will work. If you want to work with me, I do allow product reviews and I also run an affiliate program.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays I will work, publish posts regularly and connect.
On Sundays, I am going to randomly do giveaways. I am just tired of turning down offers to give stuff away to people. If I think it is of value and you will like it, I am totally going to give it away.
And on Wednesdays I will wear pink.
So tell me, how do you do it all? Can a person have a successful business without compromising their family time? And finally, if you have them, who are your role models?